Do y’all know how hard it is to use the “I, not you” method of conflict resolution with loved ones when we’re upset?
Wow. The only time to use you when you’re going with this technique is when you say “I know you don’t mean to….” or “I know it wasn’t your intention to…..” then you’re supposed to go to “I” and take the problem onto yourself. I feel this way, I feel hurt. Not even It hurts me, because then you’re putting the blame back on the jerk, I mean loved one you’re dealing with. It’s just really hard to not type “you” in these situations. I feel like that guy who wrote a book without using the letter e. He had to remove it from his keyboard, it was so instinctual.